The Myths About Marriage (Traditional Believes)
Thus, you nullify the word of God for the sake of your tradition. (Matt 15:6B NIV)
See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy which depends on human tradition and the elemental spiritual forces of this world rather than on Christ. (Colossians 2:8).
The traditional of the world that have been imported into the church has caused a significant damage to the church. Traditions are things that have been taught and passed from one generation to another and are strongly believed. The devil succeeded in making people believe these traditions that may not be true and has no root in the word of God.
Tradition can make the word of God of no impact in our live and that include our marriages.
And some of these traditions are born out of people's personal experience or ignorance which may not be true.
"sound thinking make for gracious living but liars walk a rough road" (Proverbs 13:15 MSG).
Here are some of the myths or tradition that have been taught and received as truth concerning marriages. They all look sensible and logical, but they have no connection to the word. You must throw them into the garbage so you can enjoy a stress-free marriage.
Myth 1
It's impossible to have a stress and argument free marriage because spouses are different due to the fact that they are raised in different backgrounds.
Tradition has made many believe that arguments and stress are all part of marriage because we were raised in different way and from different background. Even children born and raised in the same family, can still have conflict with each other as they are growing up. This shows that family background is not the issue. It is only with Christ that we can have a stress-free marriage.
Therefore, if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away. behold all things are become new. (2 Corinthians 5:17 KJV)
Immaturity is the major reason why many homes and marriages have turned to hell on earth. Maturity has nothing to do with age or how long you have been in church. Study the word of God more and make the bible your standard, because maturity is the formation of Christ in believers.
Myth 2
Fighting makes couples understand each other.
This is not true. In marriage 1+1=1. That means you are one, you will never want to fight yourself or cause yourself pain. I don't see how fighting can make you understand yourself.
After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church (Ephesians 5:29 NIV)
Myth 3
"Let's get real - argument, fighting, problems and frustrations are inevitable in marriage"
For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of the evil in the heavenly realms. (Ephesians 6:12 NIV).
Your spouse is not your enemies that you need to fight. It is a lie from the pit of hell for us to think that we must expect to fight in marriage.
Jesus knew their thoughts and said to them "Every kingdom divided against itself will be ruined and every city or household divided against itself will not stand. (Matt 12:25 NIV).
Myth 4
Where there is no money, there is no love.
A capable, intelligent, and virtuous woman who is he that can find her? She is far more precious than jewels and her value is far above rubies or pearls" (Proverbs 31:10 - AMP)
It is believed that woman only know money. That is a ridiculous thing to believe you can not buy true love with money. The virtuous woman is not on sale, her love can not be bought. If money can buy love, the rich would have had the best marriages but it does not work that way.
I pray that God will give us the grace to do His will and make the bible our standard not myth (Traditions), so that God can make our homes Heaven on Earth in Jesus name. Amen.
By Martin and Derin Fatola. Summarized by Magdalene Ugborogbo.